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Marko Jak's avatar

I’ve always been building products mostly in my own startups and I’m on my second startup now, this is a huge challenge with two young kids. There really are no easy answers.

What I have found is really key is full engagement with whatever the time is, so focusing on quality not quantity. Even if I’m with my wife for 15min I try to fully engage with her in that time. It doesn’t help to spend time with someone and be constantly glancing at your phone. Even something as outing your phone away during dinner and bedtime helps

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Mori Yagi's avatar

Thanks for sharing this, Adam. I feel like there aren't enough fathers that talk about this tension between family and career, perhaps because it's not seen as a traditionally masculine topic. As a dad in a dual-working household I feel seen and I appreciate you opening up the conversation.

One thing to add - setting boundaries as a leader is good for your teams as well. My partner always reminds me "Taking time off is setting a good example for your team" and it's true. When people see their leaders modeling balance, they feel safer taking time off, not responding after hours, and bringing up when their out-of-work priorities conflict with their jobs.

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